Every Woman was not Created to be ‘A Wife’… and there’s nothing wrong with that!!

A thoughtful word to men seeking a ‘woman’ and/or a ‘wife’.
Not all women were created to be … in the traditional sense,
“A Wife”. The key to a happy marriage for every man is to make sure you know ‘first and foremost’ what it is you want, need and truly desire, in a wife. Before you say ‘I DO’… it’s important to ‘know’ the type of woman whom you are marrying. If you are expecting the woman whom you are currently dating or considering tying the knot with to suddenly become ‘the (type of) wife’ whom you’ve created in your mind—-or whom by ‘request’ she is ‘every now and again’—- or perhaps the Susie Homemaker domesticated woman you believe she has ‘said’ she can be but absolutely demonstrates otherwise, then now is the time to have a serious discussion about your needs, wants and desires. Before the engagement, and especially prior to your wedding.

Perhaps you have a fantasy of her being there everyday and night, enjoying time with you, having or cooking dinner with you, going to bed with you at the same time, working out together or hanging out watching sports or going to the movies, ‘that you enjoy’ most. Maybe you’re thinking, WOW, the sex is so great now with my gal, she’s so hott and wild with passion ‘once a week’ when we get together— that you think or believe she is going to be ‘so hott and wild’ with you every day for the rest of your life??

Gentlemen, that sexy sex crazed vixen who wants ONLY YOU, whom you see once or twice a week is not whom you are going marry. Your favorite meal—-you know, the delicious once or twice a week dinner she prepares for you —- don’t get used to it, unless you know for sure, she’s Rachel Ray’s prodigy. Perhaps you two have dined out almost every night since you began dating due to career, time, convenience, etc., —- that is not going to suddenly ‘change’ —just because you fantasize something different after you’re living together or married.

Gentlemen, It’s time to be real—you are not marrying your fantasy, you are marrying a ‘real human woman’. She has morning breath. She is messy at times, and emotional. She has likes and dislikes. Like you, she doesn’t feel like getting dressed up, or wearing something sexy or showering from time to time, or doing for you—-just because you want her to do so.

The wild sassy sexy vixen you crave —- or the gal with recipes to please your every craving, or the woman whom you just know will milk cows with you every morning, or wake you up to bacon, eggs and coffee —- in heels and only an apron… is exactly that… a figment of your imagination, she’s IN YOUR MIND—not laying next to you. Even if she has perhaps presented this amazing image for you, in the past, once or twice— it’s not who she truly is every day of her life. Who she is ‘everyday’ of her life is whom she’s always been. Just like you, she’s human!Raise your standards and lower your expectations. I actually learned that phrase several years ago, from a very wise man. And… guys, truly think about what you need, want and desire in a woman, and especially a wife. Your life is important, and the life you create with ‘the one’ woman whom you decide to marry and become your wife… is the most important decision you’ll ever make in your life.~