The Deadly 3 Minute Decision

How long does it take you to make the decision to sleep or better said ‘have SEX’ with someone?
3 minutes?

People please if you want to talk about matters of great importance such as a serious relationship that you are currently involved in or considering entering, or a man or woman whom you are considering sleeping with…by the way, in case you didn’t realize it yet, having sex with another human being is a SERIOUS MATTER! Many of you whom I talk to frequently will attest to, and even those whom I haven’t spoken with yet, will also agree, I’m sure, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s Oral Sex or Intercourse, It’s still Sex and It’s Serious, and it’s Serious Sex, and making this decision is a HUGE decision that needs to be truly thought about and discussed either with the person whom you’re considering having a sexual relationship with, or with someone older and wiser who can assist you with what you will be feeling afterwards once you entertain this experience. And 3 minute decisions of this nature can and oftentimes are deadly.

People I am willing to talk openly and honestly with you, about this sensitive subject matter, and assist you wisely about this in a confidential manner. However, if you want to get a good handle on things then please call me—or any other therapist or advisor for that matter of your choice, but do plan to talk with us for a period longer than 3 minutes about matters of this nature. Otherwise, you are doing yourself an injustice, and us a disservice, as we are unable to address your situation in the most appropriate sense because that is simply not enough time to get down to the ROOT with you of what is important in making such a serious and wise decision.

Because the BOTTOM LINE IS THIS, to ask the question is utterly ridiculous: “Am I going to have Sex with Dave or Susan Saturday Nite”? If this is your first, second or third date… and this is the first time we’ve talked, regardless of what my intuition wants to tell me, my head and mouth wants to speak very calmly but directly why are you even asking me this question, you have already made your decision, YES! And then SCREAM AT YOU at the top of my lungs
‘NO’… absolutely NOT!
It’s not time yet!

So what are you really asking me? You’ve already made your decision. You know you want to sleep (have sex) with this person. Isn’t the following what you are truly asking me: “Am I going to have Sex with Susan or Dave and am I making the right decision?” That is what I am intuiting. I am intuiting both the fact that you’ve already made up your mind to have sex as well as how wrong it is to go ahead and have it, at this point. But we only have three minutes, because you’ve only paid for three minutes to discuss a decision that could literally KILL YOU!

Is your decision a wise decision?

People three (3) minutes is not long enough to talk about anything that is as serious as something like this, that I mentioned above, or anything that concerns a major interest or that could ALTER the course of YOUR LIFE, or as I wrote about could actually cost you your life, Okay. After all, people, any relationship where you are sharing your time, effort, energy and body fluids—–is a serious matter, as I’m sure you’ll agree, you all, or most of you read the papers and watch the news.  And having sex with someone does require more time and attention in making this decision, than perhaps making a decision about what outfit you’re going to wear on a date tomorrow nite, or whose car you’re going to use, to pick up your date in tomorrow nite. Those questions I will be happy to answer in three minutes and be smiling about when we hang up!

What you’re going to wear, or which car you’re going to drive should only take 3 minutes! Boys and Girls, Men and Women, PEOPLE everywhere, My own Children —if you’re possibly reading this, Please take note that whether or not you’re going to seriously date as in sleep with and have SEX with someone should take 3 to 6 months—-or longer. Thank you…and you’ll someday thank me, too, I hope! 😉