Commitment or “Not”?

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Relationship Tip of the Day: Commitment or ‘Not’?
One very important point to remember is that when a man tells you
he is not looking for a commitment, tell your best friend as well as take
time to write it down, repeat his words to yourself, several times. This will reinforce your ability to ‘hear’ what he is telling you & then be better able to make your decision about what type of relationships you are truly about to allow yourself to engage in, with him.

You believing or thinking that his fear of commitment can be overcome by your ability to ‘talk him out of his fears’—-is not going to work for you, but against you both as well as your potential relationship. The more you ‘talk to him’ about what you believe is wrong
with him or wrong with his thinking, the more frustrated you will become & the more distant
the two of you will become. 

If your guy is telling you that he is ‘not ready’ for a commitment—wanting him to be ready, or thinking that sleeping with him, is going to make him change his mind—-or become more ready, is definitely only going to make him believe that his ‘lack of commitment’ is so totally more about what is right for him, than not.

Therefore, if you go into a relationship needing or wanting a commitment, ( a good thing if that is what you truly desire) then allow yourself to open up and share what you want, need and desire with the man whom you’re interested, &/or who is pursuing you. Doing so will allow him to also ‘do same with you’. Banking on the fact that the man whom you’ve chosen to be interested in is indeed a ‘REAL MAN’, a man with a kind, honest, compassionate heart—and real concerns for your needs, then he will tell you at that time of you opening up to him, whether he is wanting a commitment or not. And from that perspective you will have the choice to either accept what he is saying to you, or deny his words. It’s up to you. ~

Enjoy your wkend.

Blessings,
Daija ext 32452