Hearts on Fire

The beguiling sizzle and mid-brain on steroids bedazzled ‘can’t get you off my mind’ dopamine reaction experienced by the reconnection with an ‘old flame’ — such as those frequently observed occurring among social media connections — are no secret to most of us these days. But did you know that this ‘HOTT & STEAMY’ bordering insatiable desire to ‘reconnect’ and run off into the wild blue yonder with Mr/Ms Onederful can also be re-experienced with Mr/Ms Onederful sitting right there next to you texting or playing on their phone or on their ipad— or somewhere in close proximity under the same roof?!! It can, and it will, if you BOTH (truly) (keywords: BOTH DESIRE) DESIRE with your head and heart to passionately reacquaint and reconnect, each with the other by stimulating the dopamine in your brains inducing that ‘got to have you now’ chemical reaction that we all so desperately crave.

It’s TEAM— (Time, Effort, Attention, and Memories) —work.

Whether you have experienced such haunting…the familiar overwhelming ‘I can’t eat, sleep, or think, —–or can’t think of anyone or anything else’ crazy (but fun) romantic desire—then you know how crazy fun and just crazy it is and how we are all —-as humans —-at one time or another so attracted to it—-when it’s happening. Maybe you have witnessed same of someone close? Perhaps ‘that someone’ was your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other—–and their reconnection with that ‘old flame’ was extremely painful, actually threatening the continuing existence of your current relationship? If this happened in your life, then you know the seductive over-stimulating emotional intensity such ‘reconnection’ has on your life —-and especially those important close relationships, primarily your marriage and family.

If your current committed relationship is non-abusive, albeit virtually non-existent, or in emotional trouble due to feelings of sorrow and sadness associated with emotional or physical neglect, geographical distance, or lacking in physical affection, and romantic passion–don’t wait!! Begin now by looking at that other person sitting next to you or in the next room, and making a conscious decision to invest your ‘Time, Effort, and Attention, (in him or her) inducing those to ‘live for’ Memories associated with the initial (dopamine creating) attraction you both induced, sought after, salivated over and enjoyed when ‘you two’ fell in love.

It’s there, it’s dormant, and you may be seeking the nearest exit—-or reconnection in some social media venue, etc., but ‘don’t do it’—-stop before you hurt yourself or those in your life whom you truly love but perhaps feel ‘unloved by’. What attracted you to him or her initially, is still there, I promise you, it’s there, (if it ever was there) and for the two of you.’TOGETHER’, you can rekindle your romantic passion and ‘fall in love’ all over again. By investing unselfish Time, Effort, and Attention, reawakening the passion, each in the other, by tapping into your shared memories that ignited the sizzle of your initial connection enabling you to recreate your beginning, and create new memories. Bring the past to the present by reacquainting, each with the other, and once again experience that Ooh so beguiling yummmy Uber —- Ooh so exciting grand Romantic reconnection with ‘the one’ whom you truly love and promised to love… forever.