Are you Emotionally Unavailable?

Never chase love, affection or attention. If it is not given freely by your partner, then you can bet that it will be given at their discretion, when it’s important to ‘them’, temporary at best, and absolutely not worth having. ARE YOU EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE? Chances are you are emotionally unavailable, to one degree or another, if your ‘love pattern’ is prone to attracting emotionally unavailable partners. Do you keep a safe distance in your relationships, romantic or otherwise? If you are ‘the one’ who upon entering a relationship does not know what you want, or is uncomfortable with your ‘truth’, then you are not ready for ‘that’ relationship. Do you feel that you are constantly wanting, needing, desiring ‘something more’ from your partner or from the relationship? Are you sitting around waiting for your partner to ‘change’ or to ‘notice you’? If any of the above is true… then it’s time to move on, ‘now’… and it’s not going to feel good. It’s a painful process. Yet, to wait, hoping, believing, desiring, wanting, needing, settling, crying, and lying to yourself about this person being ‘someone whom you want them to be’ rather than ‘whom S/he truly is’… is caring more about what you ‘want’ than about what you have and/or what truly is. You’re an emotional hott mess and at this juncture, even if it’s only been a couple months—-it’s a painful process at this point, but far less painful to slam that door ‘shut’ and go —-allowing yourself to make that emotional shift, ‘now’ vs. waiting another 3 to 6 months down the road… only to find yourself exactly where you are ‘today’—-stuck—-all the while living in a fantasy vs. ‘reality’.

Love yourself ‘first’ and more than the fantasy of whom you believe the other person is. You’ve lived the proof—–his/her truth about who they truly are, has been revealed. Just because you want to believe a lie; your belief, doesn’t change the truth.