The White Flag

Greetings – Sunday – November 28th., 2010
I am available today until 2pm., pacific & then again
this evening between 6pm & 10pm., pacific

Flame throwing comes to mind today. Volcanic lava in the form of verbal expression—-spewing hurtful words is never a solution. This type behavior only produces disastrous results, regardless the type of relationship. Whether you’re dealing with romantic, professional, or family relationships/partnerships, today could be one of those days where being ‘alone’ or at least by yourself without all the stress, strife and drama, could feel like paradise. Relish what you have, vs. always wanting something that you think you don’t or can’t have. Grasping that concept, could truly
change your life.

Today is where the most important relationships of your life are concerned will be the main theme, and this continues on into tomorrow. Relationships are the core of life, and how we go about dealing with and experiencing these relationships determines whether or not we will be ‘happy’ within the confines of a relationship, or not. I use the word, confines, because that is exactly what it is—-confining, accountable, structured, perhaps even inflexible. And more often times than not, we all tend to be a bit rebellious & rigid in our relationships, at least at some time or other, and to some degree or another, creating difficulty in communication, resulting in emotional upheavals. Very few of us are well equipped, prepared or desirous to deal with the fall out of a non-well negotiated, push you—pull me type relationship. At least few of us are able to do so in a healthy, balanced non-judgmental sort of way. Hence, the stats on breakups and divorce.

This is where conflict resolution skills are ever so necessary—-and immediate employment of such, is imperative. When explosive rage fills the room where two people are shooting fireballs or throwing daggers, each at the other, you may as well, just stop—and wave the White Flag. Otherwise, it’s not either one of you whose about to go down, but you will both wind up destroying each other as well as your entire relationship will surely sink, or melt into ashes.

Learning conflict resolution skills and the art of negotiating within the parameters of a relationship is not just necessary, but mandatory, if two people are going to get along in this world of attempting to mesh temperaments, personalities, logistics, operations, and schedules. It’s simply stressful, to say the least, but it’s not impossible. In other words,
you have to be accountable, respecting the person whom you love, and listening to them with your heart, rather than with your ears or your head.

Enjoy your Aloha Sunday,
Daija ext 32452