The Reality of Acceptance

Greetings – Monday – November 9th., 2009
I am available today until 1pm., pacific & then again this evening
between 7pm & 10pm., pacific.
Don’t let me go… Don’t let me go… is what most of us feel, think or believe when we are pained by being ‘love struck & love stuck’, unable to get the attention of ‘that one particular’ person whom we are ‘stuck’ on in some specific way. And of course during periods of what we consider ‘feeling normal’ we may believe—- what may at times—- seems like stuck in a weird or ‘crazy way’ where we just can’t seem to shake it or shake ‘them’.

It’s where what we give or feel is actually being received by the other person, but not being returned. They are taking in or ‘taking’ all that we give, yet, not responding or reciprocating or rejecting verbally. They don’t even so much as tell us to ‘go away’? This person to whom we are giving—- simply takes everything that you have to give, but either is unable, or unavailable to return same to you. Does this sound familiar? I know it does, we’ve all been there at least once and for some of us more than we care to admit.

Whether it’s real love, lust, a hard long crush, whatever name you want to give it and wherever you’re stuck, or struck…you can ‘unstick’ yourself by taking the right mental action. Allowing a process of healing to take place. Yes, it is a process. It is a matter of making and taking time out… time out for healing and allowing yourself room to ‘feel’ everything that you are feeling and experiencing, and then turn that feeling into dealing with acceptance, and then healing, automatically takes place, by accepting ‘who they are and where you are’, embracing all that you are feeling.

Oftentimes this is associated with tearful moments of acceptance, that are quite cathartic. Go ahead and ‘cry’ … God gave us tears for a reasons. They are to be a ‘flushing’ away of the grief and pain, & scream to the top of your lungs, into clarity.

Once you accept yourself, ‘who you are’ totally, and fully, with all your faults & flaws, etc., and then accept who that other person is, and not ask why, but simply accept them for who they are, period, you will magically be living in the moment of acceptance, and for the first time, truly recognize your ability to give and receive ‘real love’.  Being in the moment of acceptance, will enable you to make an authentic choice, for yourself. And if your choice is to ‘still feel the same or feel love, compassion, kindness, & gentleness toward and about that person’, then you can bank on the fact that what you are feeling about her/him is real. When you are able to fully accept someone for who & what they are, and still love them, in spite of their iniquities, unconditionally, and want them with you—–then your love for them is real. It is only then that you will be able to show ‘them’ that you love them.  And if you are unable to accept who they are, once you truly look at them honestly, then even though you may want them with you, then will still be in a place of wanting or desiring to ‘change’ them to fit whom you desire for them to become…and that is not ‘love’… but mere fantasy of what you want, and not what the reality of the situation truly is. Think, meditate and pray over the person whom you truly believe you love, put it into perspective. Call me and let’s talk about this together. Choosing to do this today will free you up emotionally to enjoy your life and experience emotional freedom. Let’s Talk today!

 Love and blessings,
   Daija ext 32452