We had a Taurus-Scorpio Full Moon on October 26: Take a look at where 2 degrees and 23 minutes Taurus- Scorpio falls in your natal chart; those houses and along with any planets closely aspected guarantee a major revelation and reorientation in your life. Something “BIG” — MAJOR– Life Altering, and more likely than not, ‘favorable’ is about to happen!

“Remember Autumn is a celebration of the Harvest, and you can certainly gather your Harvest about you as you prepare for the changes ahead.”

This is the Scorpio Full Moon, which represents stored emotional power. When this power comes to fruition, use it wisely, it’s potent magic. The power of this Full Moon is so intense that meditation is usually better if undertaken in group situations. The Scorpio Full Moon has traditionally been called the Maiden Moon or the Seed Moon. Full Moons bring to completion the cycle begun on the last New Moon. This Moon represents the time of beginning long-range cycles. Plant your plans well. With your love and care they will grow and become powerful.

We’re in for an interesting time (mid-autumn — Oct. 15th thru Nov. 15th), not only because of the Mercury Retrograde (which interferes with communications), but Mars is also in Retrograde (until Jan. 31), and Neptune, too, is in Retrograde until… Halloween. This can lead to quite a bit of passion in our beliefs (had a good political discussion lately?), and any disruptions may be seen as an opportunity to examine what is not serving us now so that we can get on with our growth. Remember Autumn is a celebration of the Harvest, and you can certainly gather your Harvest about you as you prepare for the changes ahead. Keep your wits about you.

At the end of this month, the full Moon can bring a time of good fortune in your financial matters. Remember to pay close attention to details — we’re still in Mercury Retrograde. It is interesting how we look at our financial concerns, relationships, careers, family life as separate “boxes” from time to time, when really they are all interwoven. That’s why it’s very important for your mate to share your major goals in all of these areas. Astrology looks at all of these things as they occur in your “houses”, and can help you review a sort of life blueprint. Of course the actual building is up to you.

Emotional Tides of the Moon…

Earth as viewed from the Moon during the Apollo 8 mission.

The sun enters Scorpio this week, so you may feel a bit more passionate about things. And, the full Moon is coming on Oct. 25th, which will make it fortuitous for you to concentrate some of your energy on financial matters. How do you balance the passions of your life? Just as Astrologers look at the tug and pull of the planets, so each of us must look at the tug and pull of our responsibilities — financial and otherwise. A good plan will go a long way here.

“The moon is the ruler of Cancer, an emotional sign, and is said to influence to the feeling nature of human beings.”

What is your instinct telling you that you must learn? The first step is listening to the instinct itself. Ever hear “go with your gut”? Well, that is advice that will pay off in relationships, business, and family life. But you have to be curious, and tune into the subtle signals you get from instinct and intuition. What is your emotional intelligence telling you about work? About your career? These sorts of questions are one thing the influence of Mercury can help us with right now. And, astrology can provide a framework in which to discuss your hunches.

A Full Moon (check your sky tonight — Oct. 25th) is a good time to go with your emotional intelligence — gut instincts. You see, the moon controls the tides, and water always symbolizes the deep workings of the subconscious. The moon is the ruler of Cancer, an emotional sign, and is said to influence to the feeling nature of human beings. Some other traits ascribed to the Moon include sensitivity, softness, imagination — and “emotions” are included in just about every astrological review. Oh, and did you realize that “emotional intelligence” is now an area of scientific research, and “describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups.”

What’s Merc. Retrograde All About?

Mercury from NASA Mariner 10 Mission.

We’re in a Mercury Retrograde period, right now (Oct. 12 – Nov. 1) and most followers of Astrology know what to look out for — communication errors, hold off on the big decisions, don’t sign important papers, etc. But are there some things that are GOOD to do during this time? Of course. Interesting enough, just like “Retrograde” begins with an “R”, many of the things that are good to do during Merc. Retrograde begin with an “R”: re-doing, revising, rehearsal, reflection. This is also a good time to reconnect with people from your past.

“Just remember to take time and slow down, and recheck your communication and your thinking in important matters.”

Since Mercury is influential right now (it’s in “Retrograde” — the perceived backward motion of the planet), we can take a look at what it means in our lives. Have you received any important messages recently? Mercury in mythology was the messenger of the Gods, and during retrograde it’s important to remember that messages can get mixed up. So while it’s possible you’ve received an important communication — proceed with caution. Mercury also governs thinking patterns, reasoning, and principles of communication. Pay attention to those at this time. One possibility for you is that now can be a good time to examine continuing education — formally with schooling, or perhaps just a trip to a bookstore to read up on your favorite subjects.

Have you had any personal misunderstandings with loved ones, or work associates lately? That can be another affect of the Mercury Retrograde (Oct. 12th – Nov. 17th). Of course Mercury affects different people differently, since it appears in different places in their charts. Just remember to take time and slow down, and recheck your communication and your thinking in important matters. Sleep on the matter, and you will find that given reflection, you can turn your misunderstandings into positive growth.

How long does it take you to make the decision to sleep or better said ‘have SEX’ with someone? 3 minutes?

People… please… if you want to talk about matters of great importance such as a serious relationship in which you are currently involved, or considering entering, or about a man or woman whom you are considering sleeping with… please… take sexy seriously. In case you didn’t realize it yet, having sex with another human being is a SERIOUS MATTER!

“…three (3) minutes is not long enough to talk about anything that is as serious as something like this… that could ALTER the course of YOUR LIFE, or… could actually cost you your life…”

Many of you whom I talk to frequently will attest to, and even those whom I haven’t spoken with yet, will also agree, I’m sure, that it doesn’t matter whether it’s Oral Sex or Intercourse, it’s still Sex and it’s Serious, and it’s Serious Sex, and making this decision is a HUGE decision that needs to be truly thought about and discussed. Talk about it with the person whom you’re considering having a sexual relationship with, or with someone older and wiser who can assist you with what you will be feeling afterwards once you entertain this experience. 3 minute decisions of this nature can and oftentimes are deadly.

People I am willing to talk openly and honestly with you, about this sensitive subject matter, and assist you wisely about this in a confidential manner. However, if you want to get a good handle on things then please call me — or any other therapist or advisor for that matter of your choice, but do plan to talk with us for a period longer than 3 minutes about matters of this nature. Otherwise, you are doing yourself an injustice, and us a disservice, as we are unable to address your situation in the most appropriate sense because that is simply not enough time to get down to the ROOT with you of what is important in making such a serious and wise decision.

Because the BOTTOM LINE IS THIS, to ask the question is utterly ridiculous: “Am I going to have Sex with Dave or Susan Saturday Nite”? If this is your first, second or third date… and this is the first time we’ve talked, regardless of what my intuition wants to tell me, my head and mouth wants to speak very calmly but directly why are you even asking me this question, you have already made your decision, YES! And then SCREAM AT YOU at the top of my lungs…’NO’… absolutely NOT! It’s not time yet!

So what are you really asking me? You’ve already made your decision. You know you want to sleep (have sex) with this person. Isn’t the following what you are truly asking me: “Am I going to have Sex with Susan or Dave and am I making the right decision?” That is what I am intuiting. I am intuiting both the fact that you’ve already made up your mind to have sex as well as how wrong it is to go ahead and have it, at this point. But we only have three minutes, because you’ve only paid for three minutes to discuss a decision that could literally KILL YOU!

Is your decision a wise decision?

People, three (3) minutes is not long enough to talk about anything that is as serious as something like this, that I mentioned above, or anything that concerns a major interest or that could ALTER the course of YOUR LIFE, or, as I wrote about, could actually cost you your life, Okay. After all, any relationship where you are sharing your time, effort, energy and body fluids — is a serious matter, as I’m sure you’ll agree, you all, or most of you read the papers and watch the news. And having sex with someone does require more time and attention in making this decision, than perhaps making a decision about what outfit you’re going to wear on a date tomorrow nite, or whose car you’re going to use, to pick up your date in tomorrow nite. Those questions I will be happy to answer in three minutes and be smiling about when we hang up!

What you’re going to wear, or which car you’re going to drive should only take 3 minutes! Boys and Girls, Men and Women, PEOPLE everywhere, My own Children — if you’re possibly reading this, Please take note that whether or not you’re going to seriously date as in sleep with and have SEX with someone should take 3 to 6 months — or longer. Thank you…and you’ll someday thank me, too, I hope! ;)

Jupiter looms in the Cosmos in this NASA photo.

Growth, expansion, prosperity — all good things, right? Well Jupiter is associated with those good things, and its activity in the heavens right now, means that it’s a good time to address your growth plans in your life. Inwardly, Jupiter addresses your sense of morality, ideals, and higher goals. Outwardly, this can mean that travel is in order, higher education is calling, and/or your religious self can see some growth. What house if falls in your particular horoscope can be quite revealing.

One of the ways Jupiter is active currently, is that it is performing a kind of celestial “tug-a-war” with a couple of other planets — have you noticed any tension? From the 15th to the 20th of Oct. (2007), Jupiter is in a position to give you some jittery nerves. You may notice this at work, and/or in your personal life. Think of it as an opportunity to deal with any underlying factors that could be at the root of the tension. How is your relationship with your mate going? Are your work projects all in order?

With Jupiter active in our skies right now, it is good to remember that Jupiter stands for wisdom, freedom, tolerance and plenty. Quite a good mix. How are those things playing out in your lives? I think that one way to see it is that freedom, lived wisely, leads to plenty and breeds tolerance. The United States has benefited from this. And, you can live that on a personal level, as well. Of course, there are other influences at work, but some meditation on these great blessings certainly can’t hurt.

The unique planet of Uranus (it’s the only planet that rotates on its side) is in influential position right now. What does that mean for our lives? It signifies a period of genius, new ideas, and perhaps a discovery or two. What have you been working on, that you’ve left on the “back burner?” Time to move it to the front. Don’t get too wrapped up in it though… remember to keep a balance in your life as you work with Uranus energy to invent new things in your life.

NASA image of Uranus showing cloud bands, rings, and moons.

“So… we want to be aware when Uranus is lurking in the Cosmos, and where it is in our charts — specifically what house it is in, and therefore what area of our life it will be affecting.”

Uranus is know as that tricky little planet that comes in and plays havoc, or surprises us. For all you Aquarians, Uranus is your planetary ruler, and because of its influence — you are progressive thinkers. So… we want to be aware when Uranus is lurking in the Cosmos, and where it is in our charts — specifically what house it is in, and therefore what area of our life it will be affecting. For example is it in our romance area, or in our personal, or professional area. And when Mercury is Retrograde, there is a tendancy to need to redo, revise, and rework things… so you want to be especially cautious when Uranus is active simultaneously.

What does it mean to have a revolution in your career? In your relationship? Uranus is providing a revolutionary aspect right now, is the reason I ask. Well, I think you can see it as an opportunity for yourself! You know the old saying, “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got?” That means nothing new will happen if you stay stuck in the same old habits. Break free. Learn a new skill for your job. Do something fun with your mate that you’ve never done. Then… just see what will shake loose as your spirit soars.

Are you involved with a cheating man? Below are the top 10 signs of a cheating man. The Clue for You is to watch for ‘CHANGES’ in your man’s Behavior.

The cheating man can only hide his cheating ways for so long before he gets caught. The longer a man cheats, the higher probability he will get caught. In this busy day and age, it is difficult to carry on more than one relationship. However, with inventions like the internet, accessibility to willing partners has become easier than ever. There are various ways of how to tell if your man is cheating. Below is a list of the top 10 signs of a cheating man. How can you know if your man is cheating? If your man exhibits any of the below signs ladies, it’s definitely time to take a closer look.

1. He Spends less time with you. The cheating man must use the excuse of working long hours, extra meetings and dinners or other unexplained functions so he will have time with his “other” woman.

2. He Isn’t as affectionate towards you as he once was. Your sex life is almost non-existent because of his other commitments. He doesn’t want to cuddle, watch movies, hold hands or do many of the touchy things he used to.

3. He changes or updates his physical appearance. A cheating man usually starts buying new clothes, update his hair style or begin working out because he desires to be attractive to the other woman in his life now, besides you.

4. He will often times buy a new Car or you will notice specific ‘car’ changes. The passenger seat in the car has been moved or there is an unknown hair on the car seat. Perhaps the radio station is on an irregular or new station because that’s what she likes.

5. The Cheating man is often times irritable. He may be short-tempered because of the guilty feelings as a result of the infidelity. Things that usually did not bother him will suddenly become bothersome.

6. The cheating man may smell different. He may smell of perfume, smoke or alcohol, especially if he hasn’t had time to change from meeting up with her prior to coming home.

7. He may have abrupt disposition, demeanor, & behavior changes. The cheating man frequently becomes defensive when questioned about his whereabouts. He may turn it around to accuse you of being insecure, possessive or snoopy. He becomes the great Spin-doctor in arguments to project and make you the problem, rather than his ‘cheating’!

8. The cheating man will change his Cell phone usage. The cheating man can not leave his telephone turned on when with you because his other woman may phone him. He may leave the room to have a conversation or say strange things after he picks up a message from his lover. Watch for calls in the middle of the night, or at odd times. If you have access to his cell phone bill, check it closely. Look for repeated unknown numbers, times and durations.

9. The Cheating man will have Computer usage changes. Your cheating man will often times use his personal or work computer to seek out partners to meet and communicate with. If your man is on his computer for long periods of time at night and he closes the door so you won’t see him, he may be communicating or chatting with his love interest.

10. The Cheating man will have Changes in spending habits. You will be able to tell if your man is cheating if he is suddenly always broke. He’s broke because he is spending all of his money on the other woman. Watch as to whether he is paying with cash and making more frequent ATM withdrawals to cover his paper trail. Check any receipts, bill’s or stubs that you may have access to.

Once you have questioned your man, and you have determined whether or not he is cheating, make sure you have a plan of action that you will take after you talk with him. You need to decide whether it’s time for you to move on or whether this relationship may be worth a second chance.~

Have you ever been asleep or nearly asleep and SUDDENLY or Violently felt your entire body ‘JERK’ or ‘TWITCH’ nearly out of control for about a second or two?

“Dreaming is a natural part of our sleep, we all dream and most of us do experience some recall. It’s a good and wise idea to begin a dream journal. “

We all have felt this disconcerting phenomena upon falling asleep or just after going to sleep, on occasion. The name for this reaction or sensation is called a Myclonic Jerk.

**(This is also a name commonly used for the guy whom you just broke up with or the guy who just broke up with you… LOL!

Girls, I just couldn’t resist . . . ; )

Many people who dream they are falling will oftentimes twitch or jerk their entire torso, arms or legs. And as a result immediately wake themselves up. There is no absolute reason as to why this occurs. One theory is that Myclonic Jerks occur out of our instinctive defense response for what our brain perceives as a potentially dangerous or harmful situation or circumstance. It’s a “fight or flight” type response. Sometimes dreams are so real that the brain believes that we are really falling or in some sort of danger. And hence the brain sends signals to the body to “flee” for safety.

Dreaming is a natural part of our sleep, we all dream and most of us do experience some recall. It’s a good and wise idea to begin a dream journal. You’ll be surprised by how recording—-even the tidbit of information that you can recall—-will alter your waking life in a way that will have a positive life changing effect and especially so in all your relationships.

I’ll be exploring more about dreams with you soon…

Are you dealing with CONFLICT in your life?
Of course you are… We all are!!

Conflict is inevitable. It’s a natural part of all relationships, healthy or unhealthy. All relationships—with our spouses, teenagers, colleagues, friends, extended family, siblings, church acquaintances, and neighbors—will experience conflict because people differ so greatly as individuals. And we need to value those differences! Because we’re different in personality, gender, opinions, concerns, and expectations, it’s only natural that we disagree.

“It’s important that we become aware of the blessing of conflict and not be alarmed as we begin to experience disputes and dissagreements.”

Whether at work or at home, meaning in your personal or professional life, think of CONFLICT as a way to Embrace your relationships in a new way.

Conflict isn’t fun—and it’s rarely pretty, of course. But that’s because so many people rarely have good conflict resolution skills. OR perhaps any conflict resolution skills at all. So it’s no wonder most of us dislike it and try to avoid it whenever possible. And it’s perfectly normal for us to want to avoid conflicts.

It’s important that we become aware of the blessing of conflict and not be alarmed as we begin to experience disputes and dissagreements. Rather than worry about when and if a conflict will occur, instead determine now how you will handle any conflict when it does come up. Conflict is actually a valuable crossroads—a point of growth in all your relationships. This may be a major paradigm shift for many people, especially if you’ve been in the habit of avoiding conflict altogether. It’s important for you to see conflict as an opportunity to deepen your connection in your relationships, and not as a threat that will damage them, whether personal or professional, all family members and especially with your children—-Moms and Dads.

So your new goal is not to eliminate disagreements, but to reach the other side together, with a closer bond between you and that other person. When conflict arrises you do recognize that your relationship is changing, certainly; and you can either use this time to grow together or grow apart—whether personally or professionally. The way you handle the critical interactions and conflict will be a key tool in improving your relationship. It is possible to have a stronger relationship if you get a good handle on the conflict and learn to manage it rather than letting it control you.

Conflicts, if handled in a healthy manner, have the potential to draw you closer to one another. In fact, disagreements are a necessary part of the process of drawing nearer to one another and working thru things that perhaps you’d not be able to do any other way, it’s a bonding sort of ideal, that of course, we’d rather choose to run from or not to explore.

The best way to use conflicts is to agree ahead of time to always try to end up after a disagreement with a win-win solution. In other words, argue lovingly in a partnership type arrangement if it’s a personal type situation until you both understand each other and value each other’s different opinions. And in a friendship or work type situation, make sure you do so with kindness and consideration, and always with tact and diplomacy. Then spend a few minutes finding a solution that you both like and can live with. This is the best way to grow and draw closer in both personal and professional relationships, and especially so in love relationships to others when in disputes.
I do promise you that it may not be the most fun thing that you will ever experience, but it will be the most helpful and prosperous relational skill that you will ever learn. And you’ll personally, professionally, and relationally be better for having gone thru it all and learned so much!~